July 15, 2014

Nurture: Social Capital


Musing…
“Make tea, not war.” – Monty Python

Charise’s Turn:
My first instinct for a subject for this blog entry was tea -- as in having a cup of tea, sharing tea. People who know me know my love of tea, how I only brew loose tealeaves that have more taste than any tea bag infused cups from Starbucks, or from any restaurant for that matter. But the matter at hand is how my subject shifts from tea. In a recent Liz Lerman Dance movement lab we were asked to fill in the blanks for “I am the ___ who _____“, with both words and movement.  For me, this became “I am the friend who makes tea”.  Tea, friendship, hospitality, sharing…segue to social capital. 

At a recent Mentorcoach conference, Ellen Ostrow, PhD introduced the concept of social capital. “Resources reside in relationships”; and “competency is not enough…connection is everything”, are my takeaways from what she said. We need avenues to share our creativity with others, and that requires connection -- formal, informal, personal and professional.

Self-promotion can be pretty lonely, isolating even. You can make yourself a lovely website that sits. One way to build your social capital is to interface with other websites or organizations that showcase what you do, extending your reach beyond your own website, office, business, shop, or studio. I recently joined the Expat Coach Association, and along with my co-author Debra Bryson, gave an interview at their request. They featured us as expat coaches of the month for July. This coach of the month interview reaches a wider audience then we could have found on our own. It's akin to inviting more people to pull up a chair and listen.  

Get Fired Up:
The value behind nurturing social capital is altruism. Give an interview, idea, or an invitation to experience what you have to offer. Explore your niche, your specialty, your interests to see what else is out there. You’re not alone – reap the benefit of connecting. Share a cup of tea.  


July 1, 2014

Nurture: Room to Grow


Musing …..  
“Dreams come a size too big so that we can grow into them.”  -Josie Bisset

“Greater than I ever imagined...” This is a phrase that I love to anticipate when I’m dreaming of something new in my life. And faithfully tending to a dream has, in fact, exceeded my wildest dreams many times over. Such that now I find myself approaching them with an expansive openness, giving them LOTS of room to grow.

Kate’s Turn:      
When I moved back to the Midwest, circumstances were such that I was unable to make room in my schedule to nurture my creative watercolor passion. Life happens and stabilization took first priority. I  don’t think I painted for an entire year! I began to experience a waning of my creative juices, and I noticed that the lack of nurturing soul food from being in the creative zone was leaving me withering and hungry. It felt as though my creative spirit was in darkness. This is an example of NOT nurturing  creativity. I began to doodle, sketch, paint just 5 minutes at a time, vowing to feed my soul daily, even for a short time. I gave myself room to grow by nurturing in just teeny ways. I began to fill up small spaces that appeared as darkness, with light, with sparks of creative ideas, images, and activity. It was like a candle in a dark room. And, over time, as I am able to give myself even more room, it becomes more like a flashlight, and sometimes, even sunlight! So, my current dream includes an actual “room to grow”; I am anticipating moving to another home within this next year, and I envision a creative space/studio where I can hold classes for creative expression and spiritual practice and nurturing dreams that become “greater than I ever imagined!” Pure light!

"Whatever is flexible and loving will tend to grow; whatever is rigid and blocked will wither and die."     
- Lao Tzu

Get Fired Up:  
Each growth is tiny and tender and not always easily seen…pay attention as you grow.
Imagine yourself taking action on your dream rather than on the desired outcome.   
What is a teeny, small step you can take in nurturing your dream?
How can you make room to grow?  Allow the light to supersize your dreams!



Saint Kate

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